9 Steps to Conquer the Fear of Change

Fear of ChangeChange can be a scary thing. When you make a change in your life, you bring yourself into the unknown. You travel from a safe place to one where you don’t know exactly what will happen.


The truth is, there is nothing you can do to stop change. This world is always changing – sometimes for good and sometimes not. The best thing you can do for yourself is to learn the best ways to adapt to change. You’ll soon learn that there’s no reason to fear change at all!


Here is a list of strategies to conquer your fear of change:


Think Positive Thoughts About Change.
When you embark on a change in your life, think it through in a positive way. Instead of thinking about what could go wrong, picture it all going right. Instead of the famous soft drink slogan, “What’s the worst that can happen?”, flip this around and really get excited about the question of “What’s the best that can happen?”.


Learning Life Lessons About Past Change. 
Think about some of the past changes you’ve gone through in your life and include both the positive outcomes and the negative ones. Regardless of your past, it’s likely that you’ve learned an important life lesson. Yet, if you keep your life stagnant, you’ll lose out on the many important life lessons and experiences. Sure, when you first learned to walk you fell over a few times. What would have happened if after the first fall you had thought, “Hmmn, this walking lark is a bit risky… I’d best not try that again!”


Write Down Your Thoughts About Change
Writing down your innermost thoughts can provide a similar release as confiding with a close friend. Change can be scary, but if you provide yourself with a way to conquer the fear, you can find the courage underneath. Write down why you fear change – and be honest with yourself. What could you lose by changing? What risks does the change pose in terms of threats to your ego, your relationships, your personal comfort? Once on paper you can work on strategies to face into to these ‘perceived’ threats and manage the changes rationally rather than emotionally.


Try Hypnosis. 
Hypnosis and self-hypnosis techniques have been known to help when we need to alter our thinking. Hypnosis can help you relax and clear your mind, enabling you to focus on those transformative thoughts which aid change.


Use Positive Motivation. 
If you want to get over your fear of change, you have to actually want the change. If you do, you’ll do whatever it takes to get motivated. You can do this by reciting affirmations, writing directions down for yourself, or asking a trusted friend or family member for help. You have to ask the girl/boy out on a date to have the relationship you desire; you have to apply for the job to get your dream career, and you have to get your but off the couch and out of the fridge if you want a body to be proud of, so think about the long term outcome that change will bring, rather than the short term pain.


Stay in the Present.
Staying in the present moment can help you conquer any fear. It’s far too easy for your mind to get caught up with regrets about the past or worries about the future. In moments of self-doubt, focus only on whatever you’re doing at the moment. This moment is all you have, so you might as well enjoy it!


Break Down the Change. 
If you’re planning a big change in your life, perhaps it will help to break down the change into a series of smaller steps. Doing so will help you to feel less overwhelmed if you can easily transition into a change instead of feeling shocked and scared.


The Right Time. 
Remember that NOW is always the right time to change. Don’t make excuses for yourself. Believe that you can do it and go for it!


The Back Up Plan. 
When you embark on a path of change, it may be the unknown that scares you most. If possible, carefully plan through your change. Think about all the possible scenarios and outcomes – positive or negative – then make a plan.


Change for the Better

Change is going to find you one way or another, so you might as well learn how to go with the flow and learn how to let go. Sure, this is easier said than done, however, learning how to better adapt to change can improve all aspects of your life!

If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.

Lao Tzu


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